You are an honored guest in your host family's home. They are making
great efforts to make you feel comfortable and at home.
You will be offered to take the first bath of the evening. You will
probably have a comfortable space in a house that might not have
a lot of spare space.
In return, you should be appreciative of the efforts the family
is making on your behalf, and you should show them that you
think they are terrific hosts. Be as graceful and gracious as you can be.
Use lots of
- "ii desu" - it is good
- "oishi desu" - it is delicious
- "domo arigato" / "domo arigato gozaimasu" - thank you
If you feel like complaining, try laughing at yourself instead. If you
can't see the humor in the situation you are not looking closely enough.
You are on a fantastic adventure in an exotic, far away land where
people you barely know are trying to please you. What a deal!
So of course things are different from the way they are at home. That's
the point of the trip. You will see things that seem non-sensical to you,
but believe me someone staying at your house would also observe
non-sensical behavior. Some of this is just tradition, but it may be
rooted in some long-ago context you can't imagine.